But, I still have to be able to have the ability to want to kiss you and I … It's more attractive to look at and feels nicer to touch when it's free of gels or sticky products. I was suffering from horrible anxiety and barely left my room, but I still expected a guy to fall into my lap and constantly wondered if I was completely unfuckable or hideous. That said, try working on building your confidence. Many attractive women in their 20s reject all but the most attractive and powerful men Many of those rejected men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40s When those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re now chasing the young women they used to be Guys think youâre out of their league. Thank you. ... you can learn to turn them … I've noticed that men don't seem to pay attention to me anymore while out in bars and all. Girls usually do not date guys for the … So, pick yourself up off of the fucking floor and get some help. Do you participate in any of that? … I think God put this in the male psyche to propagate the species. As strange as it sounds, if you are altruistic and you hate lies, then other people find you very attractive. i don't have friends and my family hates me. Don't look for guys in bars, if you are intelligent then you probably aren't what most guys on a night out are looking for. I don't know who these men are...but they could be out there. * Let me clarify - I find them pleasing to the eye, and every so often quite tempting, but I don't find myself actually attracted to them. Then I found out ghosting is usually what happens after the cute girl says yes or we just sort of talk off and on for months/years while I occasionally ask "are you free?" I’ve got to have bigger biceps first…” Another example is where a guy is working in a job that he hopes will impress women. Please make an appointment to talk with a counselor who can help you get out of negative thought spirals. You should just try to find your people right now, even if they’re ever just friends, building a support network is important to getting through life, and college. it's my nose. Thankfully, women definitely donât reject good men in favor of bad men. [–]LovelyPositivity 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (0 children), Not OP but just want to say this is awesome and so are you, buddy! It is a safe place to be where you don’t have to face other people, hold a conversation, or face rejection. Nobody likes me”…. Find your group chat here >> start new discussion reply. Una likes them latino and Dos and I like them white. Tldw (it’s only like five mins, not bad at all you should): men don’t want to be creepy. I've recently lost my significant other because she left me, and now i miss her so much, but she's with another person. Itâs done by getting rid of all the bullshit beliefs and habits you have that have been holding you back. Because it's much easier to build a serious relationship with an honest person and there is no risk that they will lie to you. Are things just not going your way? I love Matthew Hussey. Looking through your post history, you seem to suffer from some sort of depression or other mental health issues. Not gay. [–]drewisbeast567 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (4 children). I am attracted to white and Asian guys but I feel like white guys don't find me attractive. Men donât just go around and tell every woman what a great lover she is. * Let me clarify - I find them pleasing to the eye, and every so often quite tempting, but I don't find myself actually attracted to them. Do Guys Find Me Attractive? they would AT LEAST try to have sex with me. It's unattractive to listen to someone explain how lost they are if they don't have a plan to get on track. men won't want me unless im attractive. i lost count of how many times a guy said to me "i noticed that youre interested in me but i just see you as a friend". then i would be a little less ugly than i currently am. In fact, a lot of women have negative experiences when it comes to sexual feedback. Drawing in their eyebrows.’ Look love, thanks to the great over-plucking massacre of 1999, most of … It's hard to know if you're a guy-magnet or not. I agree with some of the principles but there’s a lot of assumptions and generalisations made - makes it hard to fully support him. Good-looking men are assumed to have better personalities, more rewarding careers, and more fulfilling life experiences (Dion ⦠This may not happen much, but if youâre naturally a very attractive person, it can be difficult for a guy to approach you. Or, “the clothes make the man.” How you dress signals to … By this we mean a specific feature of yours that others may find attractive, such as your long legs or your plump lips. Well, guys are just as complicated. People decided for themselves whether they wanted to add a comment to the Reddit thread. Reply Link. And no, none of what I just said is "rape culture." ... It’s the … i'd pay a few thousand bucks to be pretty. So you haven’t had much luck with women and have resigned yourself to believing ‘girls just don’t like me’. Spending time with someone who is always a sad sock becomes draining over time, and eventually they pull away so that they can spend time with other, more positive individuals. Remember, foundation is supposed to be invisible to others and blend in with your skin. or Create Personality Quiz. It's the 21st century. Very attractive, donât find most men attractive. Honey, I am not even ugly, and I had absolutely no luck landing a dude my freshman year of college. Stay away from glittery or shimmering eye makeup and NEVER use clumpy mascara. This subreddit is also great for those who get gratification out of helping others. 800-273-TALK (8255), For those who don't mind a harsher approach, try /r/HowToNotGiveAFuck. If you are always walking everywhere in a haste, guys won’t want to approach you. In my experience, women have a fairly narrow view of what they consider beautiful in other women. Men really appreciate a skilled and committed lover. It may be helpful to talk to a professional who is good at words and stuff to help you end it. I'm still insecure, still don't regard myself as attractive, and still feel like an outcast in most social situations. I’ve been single for a year and only been asked on two dates - both I had to semi initiate...I’m starting to get resentful about the lack of proper attention I receive. ... girlfriends, etc., because they are attractive men – at least to somebody. noone will ever love me or find me attractive (self.MMFB), submitted 2 years ago * by mayflowerpenguin. It hurts so much i feel like i have a sword going through my heart all day. I can say from absolute experience that this is not true. You never know. Anecdotal evidence aside, I know for a fact that I don't find "hot" men attractive. Please report comments you find to be overly rude or offensive. 0. reply. So it's a mistake and they're just making polite small talk as part of their job or something. What Carolyn Says: Well, I have naturally curly hair so don't fucking touch it. Firstly, don’t delude yourself into thinking no one will ever find you attractive just because people in your nearby area don’t. i lost count of how many times a guy said to me "i noticed that youre interested in me but i just see you as a friend". men won't want me unless im attractive. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. i go to university and i recently started my second semester. Let me give you an example. In my experience, women have a fairly narrow view of what they consider beautiful in other women. Barret said in his book that men won’t outright admit that they find the 7:10 body ratio most attractive or that they have a prejudice against big women. It's very likely there are some number of guys in the world who think your nose is the hottest thing since Victoria Secret underwear, but there are probably 100 times that number who don't even realize it's any different and who don't understand why you feel bad about it. Her weight problems, on the other hand, may also impact her fertility; For this reason, most guys don’t usually go for women who have a larger waist-to-hips ratio. It's hard to know if you're a guy-magnet or not. ... owning a set of clubs actually makes you more attractive to the opposite sex. For me, I approach girls semi frequently, I’m not scared of rejection, but if they haven’t given me some sign that they’re ok with me walking over to them you can forget it. Photo: Getty Images . I wasted my whole life taking drugs. Well you might be right, but not for the reasons you think. First of all, you're making the same mistake that men who get seduced by groups like the redpills, pick-up artists, and incels make. Rendered by PID 20040 on r2-app-02b3e9ac3f5a31c62 at 2021-01-09 01:29:29.603524+00:00 running d8cca48 country code: GB. [–]SirMustache007 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago* (0 children). use the following search parameters to narrow your results: Has something terrible happened in your life? ... Those blessed with naturally plump lips … Do an informal interview with a friend or mentor who will lovingly tell you some of the good things you bring to the table and some of the areas where you need to change. If youâve noticed some or all of these qualities in yourself donât worry, you can learn to turn them around and become the guy women find attractive. ... i think i am a good-looking person but i still want to know if others find me attractive. Looking pretty is not enough. Most people may not ⦠Men don’t just go around and tell every woman what a great lover she is. I'm 27 years old and now sober for the first time in 12 years. And here I have to admit that I am undoubtedly judging their books by their covers, but I have yet to find the exception to the rule. We have to approach when we can and if she doesn't smile and get chatty within 5 seconds, excuse yourself and get back to your own business. And I'm afraid the answer is to exit your comfort zone and go speak to people. Start. Definitely! noone does. He tries to get her to like him, before she is attracted to him . So it could be a lot of things. Just a new way to view rejection. I don’t believe this is the case - but my friends seem to think that guys will not approach me because they are scared of rejection. Like you've internalized their reactions as them losing interest in you, perhaps what's going on is more complicated. This means that to the degree you can, get rid of problems with your teeth, skin, odor, substance issues (believe me – finding out that someone is a smoker the first time you kiss them is bad to experience). Others might even think that you are tired of getting too much attention. Secondly, it sounds like you're waiting on guys to come after you. nowadays it's all about the looks. Don't go through it alone! Never. im too ugly. Anecdotal evidence aside, I know for a fact that I don't find "hot" men attractive. Otherwise, we will try to check as often as possible to get it out. What people don't like is when you're being bothersome. But, you ask an important question, âWhat am I doing wrong?â You are aware that you are doing something to discourage men from meeting, dating and becoming intimately involved. So, it sounds like you're in a thought spiral. I dunno what to do for title but 21M am sad details within, My career has just been ruined due to lockdown, could someone please offer empathy/encouragements/advice on dealing with feelings, but not solutions for the actual situation please, It's so sad I'm only 20 and all I think is about death. noone will ever look at me and think "wow she is cute" or "wow she is pretty". Men don't want to go in for a kiss and come out looking like they just joined the circus. Remember, foundation is supposed to be invisible to others and blend in with your skin. Quit waiting on the guys in your world to sort themselves out. 2. i'd to it. Some people do find particular extremes, muscles, I suppose, or really big breasts, to be attractive. College is great because you can find friends, and if you don’t like them you can stop talking to them and never see them again. people who are attractive dont know how hard it is to be ugly. So your looks absolutely aren’t the problem. So...a grocer approached me last week and I couldn't tell if he was making small talk as part of his job or if it was sincere flirting, but I ended up panicking and "running". Girls who didn't fit a stereotypical beauty mold, some of whom in retrospect had big noses which at the time I never even noticed, could have easily wrapped me around their fingertips if they wanted to. Watch. Women Find 80% Of Men Unattractive, Says Crazy Study. It doesn’t help that I do draw a lot of attention based on my looks so I have a strong idea of how attractive I am. If you come across as “oh woe is me. The girls that guys find attractive are the girls that think they themselves are attractive. Just because men do not find you attractive doesn't mean you get to change the rules of the attraction game. I love when people talk to me at the gym or smile and greet me when I'm out walking. You do sort of have a “dark” look if that makes sense and … why? That kind of desperation is not attractive. You're better off ignoring it entirely and just do your best to be a decent person. Don’t miss that opportunity. You need to read the body language and get the hint when she doesn't want to talk, some people have a hard time just telling you straight up when you're not wanted. Let me give you an example. I'm a 5'2" heterosexual woman and have no problem dating short men. 10. âCalling me after sending me a rapid fire of texts that I donât answer. The girl that gets approached is the one that can make guys around her feel comfortable going up to them. Guys love to pretend we are uncomplicated because it ties into the old stereotypes of what masculinity is supposed to be about, but I promise we are just as complicated as anyone else. Books, baby! and join one of thousands of communities. He tries to get her to like him, before she is attracted to him. Dear Ugly, Fat Feminists:I'm sorry men don't find you attractive. During high school, Iâd had a terrible crush on a good-looking guy who turned out to be such a jerk that by our senior year, he was flat-out hideous to me, physically and otherwise. I am attracted to white and Asian guys but I feel like white guys don't find me attractive. Instead, I focus on getting to know someone in a shared activity, and only after I know them would I then approach them. For you itâs normal to be told how good having sex with you is. Why? if you seem like you are busy, guy won’t want to approach you. i feel like you only find love if you're pretty. Chill out — you might look hotter. I felt horrible about it.). most people think "lol what's wrong with her nose" and "lol she is so quiet and awkward". Really. In general the guys that have been attracted to me have been shorter. this article is absolutely amazing! Trust me, people mature a lot after high school. it's the sad truth. If you want to help but can't think of the words or don't have time, vote them up to draw more attention to it so that others can find and help them. If you don’t flash a smile in a guy’s way, GWWTAY. You see someone you like, make a move, if it doesn't work, you're no worse off than you were before. We also do not allow submissions posted simply to be funny. The next year I put in the tiniest amount of effort and ended up with my boyfriend of nearly 9 years now. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Indeed, it is not just guys on the internet who rate girls â it is also guys whom you know in real life. I figure I’ll let my career achievements and self-confidence act as natural selection, a way to weed out the men who aren’t right for me. Some guys lack communication skills to approach women and think it has to be in a certain setting. Go to first unread Skip to page: lachachacha Badges: 16. You know what I did? Shutterstock. Don't think you can't be the one who aproches them, that may be all you need to do, I am friends with all the girls (and a few of them are telling me what to write right now), so I've seen this before, one of my friend had not been able to do this and I talked to her and tried to get her out of her shell, and she now has a boyfriend, just try to talk to them, they won't bite (they may bite) The only time you should hold off is when she's obviously busy. :), [–]Digital_Voodoo 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (0 children). The reason is that people think that you are aware of how gorgeous you are and don’t need any reminding about it. if a man friendzones you, it's because of your looks. You probably think it's absurd every time you hear some guy whining about how girls only want muscly rich guys with perfect chins and six-pack abs. This isnât done by adding on layers to try and become a different person. but noone wants me. I guess I must be intimidating or something because white guys just don't approach me. However, after about a year of keeping at it I had gone from 210 Lb. You sound like my ex, so I'm gonna give you some cold advice. But of course, don't forget about being tactful. While happiness is generally considered attractive on women, they often don't go for guys who appear overly smiley. Men see this behavior pattern, and they choose to either steer clear of such insanity, or they might just understandably cave and give those women exactly what they want. Guys don’t like rejection and if they ask a girl out and she says no, it often takes months before he’ll try again! Don't look for guys in bars, if you are intelligent then you probably aren't what most guys on a night out are looking for. everyone either treats me like i'm a piece of shit, or like i don't exist. My friends get hit on and I actually see guys checking them out, but never happens to me⦠Hmm, the more you know, right? For me it's very much that I've been trained that women don't want to be approached at work, at the gym, waiting for the bus, etc. In fact, a lot of women have negative experiences when it comes to sexual feedback. Here’s an example of a time I semi-initiated and it semi-failed - there’s a guy I’ve known for a few years (don’t know him well) who I’ve always found attractive, every time I see him out, I make sure to say hello and be friendly...a few weeks ago I saw him out, said hello etc. if a man friendzones you, it's because of your looks. Rep:? Sure, guys message me on Instagram all the time, but when it comes to a real life scenario, I rarely get approached, unless it’s by really cocky/overly confident guys (which I’m not interested in). Don’t let the sheer fear of rejection stop you from getting a nice girlfriend. No. It wasn't easy; I don't have great self-discipline. instead theyre like "uhh.. no thanks, i'll pass". More Attractive Quizzes. i was always that "shy ugly girl" and i hate myself for it. And, I don’t find younger men mentally attractive. That said, I don't know if I could date a guy shorter than me (but it would probably be pretty difficult to find ⦠that was in middle/high school of course. There's nothing wrong with it, however, being like that make guys more reluctant to date you. Almost every guy rates a girl he meets, either subconsciously or consciously. I accepted one friend request of an unknown girl and we had a conversation. I'm super hesitant to approach women cause I've been reject, mocked, and laughed at for even trying. I feel confident to walk away from situations and men that donât serve me, and to give men feedback if they do something I donât like. (95.3 Kg) to to 123 Lb. Guys WANT to approach you, but if we approached every girl we though was attractive we’d never get anywhere because that’s all we’d be doing. So there's no way to stay away from it. I saw that video somad like few years ago and I have still always like really agree with it. Oh, but not for you. A 2013 study by researchers in Finland, South Africa, the … In these places, unwanted advances can be considered harassment. I really like the video, it probably doesn’t resonate as well with girls but man, does he hit the nail on the head. Thankfully, women definitely don’t reject good men in favor of bad men. They could just think you Latinas don't like white guys so they don't try, they may be a bit scared of how assertive and loud you can be (lol), and they aren't as assertive as the typical don juan Spanish guy in going up to random Latinas and hitting on them. It may be hard to hear, but men are noticing that stuff anyway. We donât know who they are, or whether they are in any way a representative sample of single men⦠Here are some of the many reasons why good guys get rejected by women: 1. I go for the girls who make that first interaction easy. 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